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fluteguy18
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I know that I've known a lot of you on this board for quite a while. I joined in 2006. I have met many of you in person, and I'm happy to call many of you my friends. And because I know that for those of you who have been following my journey through college and my preparations through for graduate school auditions for prestigious schools, I thought that I would make the announcement public here rather than through a lot of private messaging.

I've taken most of my auditions. I have one more on Saturday the 5th, but I have decided not to go to it. I have chosen to go to none of the schools that I have auditioned for. There is only one school that MIGHT change my mind, but I'm on the waiting list there (USC-Los Angeles). But even then if I were to be accepted, I feel that I would turn it down. I have decided to pursue something in life that makes me happy. I love music and I REALLY love the flute, but pursuing it as a full time career has brought only sorrow and bitterness in the past year. I have pushed myself as hard as possible producing numerous performance injuries. My self esteem has fallen dramatically as I was thrashed against the egos of players with far greater careers than I could even dream of having myself. But ultimately this career path stopped being fun over a year ago and merely became something that I do well. All of the pressure ultimately manifested itself in the form of an eating disorder. So, I'm getting out of music full time, and getting help with my health.

I have chosen to pursue a career path that makes me happy. It has been something that has brought me stress relief and happiness for quite some time as ironic as it may be. I am now applying to Le Cordon Bleu for a degree in the culinary arts. I love food (even though I have control issues with it), I love to cook (and I'm good at it!) and people will always eat so there will always be jobs. I'm also considering applying to graphic design schools, but I like cooking a lot more than graphic design. I still plan on being a flutist, but this time... on my own time, my terms, my way, when I want to and where I want to. Music will be fun again. I plan on pursuing ethnic flutes much more in depth and hopefully I'll end up doing some pit work and light recording work on them.

I know this is quite a shock to hear, particularly because of my dedication in years prior, but now that I know that I can be happy doing something other than music, I feel so much better.

So... there you have it. If you have any sort of response, please send it to me in a PM (private message). Thank you all for all of your support over the years. Even though I'm changing fields, don't think I'm going anywhere! I'm still a flute junkie, just in a different way. :)

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Classitar
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Thanks for letting us know.
I hope you find joy and satisfaction in your daily occupation.

AC

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Phineas
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fluteguy18 wrote:I have chosen to pursue a career path that makes me happy. It has been something that has brought me stress relief and happiness for quite some time as ironic as it may be. I am now applying to Le Cordon Bleu for a degree in the culinary arts. I love food (even though I have control issues with it), I love to cook (and I'm good at it!) and people will always eat so there will always be jobs. I'm also considering applying to graphic design schools, but I like cooking a lot more than graphic design. I still plan on being a flutist, but this time... on my own time, my terms, my way, when I want to and where I want to. Music will be fun again. I plan on pursuing ethnic flutes much more in depth and hopefully I'll end up doing some pit work and light recording work on them.

I know this is quite a shock to hear, particularly because of my dedication in years prior, but now that I know that I can be happy doing something other than music, I feel so much better.

So... there you have it. If you have any sort of response, please send it to me in a PM (private message). Thank you all for all of your support over the years. Even though I'm changing fields, don't think I'm going anywhere! I'm still a flute junkie, just in a different way. :)
I will respond PM, but I thought would at least make a short public one.

If you do a Google search on me, you will find that I am into a lot of different occupations and interests. Most of them are related to music one way or the other.

Anyhow, just because you skip a chapter does not mean you have closed the book. You are a great musician, and a great young mentor. That will never change.

Peace and prosperity my flute brotha!

Phineas

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cflutist
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I really wish you the best ... and based on what I have seen on FB, looks like you'd be a great chef too. IMO there is too much politics in the music world, one of the reasons I dropped out during college.

I have found that I can really enjoy flute playing but not make it my career. I just retired from 32 years in IT, but still enjoy playing principal flute in a community college orchestra. In fact about 50% of that orchestra is made up of those with other full time jobs.

Best of luck.

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Glad to hear you found a path, fluteguy18. You'll have to combine your love of cooking with your love of flute and create a totally awesome flute inspired pastry of amazingness and then post a picture of it!

*Envisions giant detailed flute shaped cake* :D

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Do whatever makes you happy because what makes you happy IS the path, but don't give up the flute either. You can maybe teach or perform locally of self-publish CDs (it's free...)
Good luck!
And post photos of your culinary creations!

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I have to echo the sentiments of the others that have already replied. You can still love the flute and continue playing but not make it your career. There are many opportunities to play in non-professional or semi-professional settings. I play at church almost every Sunday (gratis) and get hired to play for weddings sometimes. I play a few musical theater gigs occasionally - those are usually a lot of fun. I still do some occasional teaching, too. So, good luck with your new pursuits. Besides, I'm sure that you will do much better economically in another profession.
"Never give a flute player a screwdriver."
--anonymous--

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It is an unfortunate reality that when you rely on something you love to be your main source of income it does change what your relationship to that thing is. This can be both a blessing and a curse. It also doesn't help that so many things in the music world are beyond your control, so I completely understand your frustrations.

I would caution you in letting your flute playing go completely though. I understanding needing a break and all that jazz, but also remember there is no right/correct way to go about taking part in music/life. Find things you do enjoy :)

Also, I wish you much luck in culinary school :) The life of a chef is very demanding and require many hours of work... but can also be very rewarding (guess what I did in my almost 10 year break from playing the flute ;) ). I hope to still see you around here though. I haven't been around long but you always seem to have some of the best input on things here and we would all miss you.

fluteguy18
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I'm not QUITTING quitting. I'm just changing my career focus. I'm still teaching privately, taking small gigs, and playing for fun. I just don't want to rely on it for income anymore.

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