Some of the best flutists I have known are male flutists. When I was in high school, I worked my way up to playing the first part in the symphony band as a sophomore. I was sitting right next to a male flutist who I never challenged. He was a year ahead of me in school. His father was a professional flutist, and his son was a phenomenon. He also taught me so much! I didn't play flute for years after high school. Then when I joined a community band, I again quickly worked my way up to first part. I sit next to a male flutist. He is also absolutely awesome and teaches me so much--much more than our prima donna female principal flutist who seems to feel threatened by others. I know not all female principals are that way, but that has just been my experience with the different principals who have sat in first chair since I joined the band. They have been aloof and seem insecure, even though everyone is awed by their skill level. The male flutists in band seem more willing to share knowledge, tips (and also to accept advice without getting all bent out of shape). They just seem more secure. I don't want to believe that that is how all of us females are, because this is the only band I have been in since taking up the flute again. However, sadly, this has been my experience since joining this band. Maybe female principal flutists in an audition band take their role more seriously. Our principal is related to the conductor, so she can behave however she wants. I have already mentioned in another thread that she never allows anyone else to play the solo parts in pieces. The male flutist I sit near said that in the audition band he formerly was a member of, any flutist who felt comfortable playing a solo was permitted to throughout the season.